|Fulfillment@Work: WHAT DO I WANT TO DO WITH MY LIFE?
March 9, 2003
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Published by Joel Garfinkle, Dream Job Coaching
1. What Do I Want to do With My Life?
2. The Coach's Lesson
3. What my clients say
What Do I Want to Do with My Life?
A client asked me, "What Do I Want to do With My Life?" She said the following during the coaching session:
"I have never truly defined what I want to devote my life to. I was a person who never really had a specific career in mind. Some of my friends instinctively knew that they wanted to be doctors, or wanted to teach, or never wanted to leave our hometown, etc. The only thing I knew when I left high school was that I wanted to see the world. I have been fortunate enough to find work (after a lot of hard work) that allowed me to do and see a great deal. I have no regrets, but I now have a burning desire to synthesize all the information about who I am and what I want into a direction that fulfills my destiny."
This was my answer to her:
I've heard a lot of clients tell me that it's not fair that others know what they want and the clients still do not know. I'm surprised by this because it's my perception, from my experience, that the majority of people don't know what they want. I think this is a case of "the grass is always greener" concept coming into play and their perceptions are very different from reality. It appears that people know what they want, but maybe that clarity is coming from pressure from society, family and peers. I call this doing what you "should" be doing and not what you truly want to be doing. Perhaps these people appear to know what they want but are not able to see that they are stuck within a box that limits them from having the freedom to choose what they truly desire in their work.
I love to see clients who don't have a specific career in mind - they have a great advantage in beginning the journey towards finding what they do want. They aren't trapped within a specific mindset with predetermined outcomes and judgments and their minds are open to explore freely and without bias.
I had a client who was a doctor and who had devoted 17 years to her practice and was now trying to make a change. She was trapped in her work and couldn't see herself doing anything else. I've also worked with a person who was the top of his MBA class, went to join the best financial and consulting companies in the world. Now, 10 years later, he is so wrapped up in his external success and what he has built that leaving that for something else seems too big and difficult."
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The Coach's Lesson
If you haven't truly defined what you want to devote your life to, realize the following:
Point 1: It is never too late,
Point 2: You can begin with a fresh start,
Point 3: You can still learn about who you are and what you want,
Point 4: Once you begin this process, the direction that fulfills your destiny will begin to appear, rather magically.
Point 5: Begin this now, don't wait!
Quotes of the week
"When I am finishing a picture, I hold some God-made object up to it - a rock, a flower, the branch of a tree or my hand - as a final test. If the painting strands up beside a thing man cannot make, the painting is authentic. If there's a clash between the two, it's bad art."
~ Marc Chagall
"The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes, but in liking what one does."
~ James M. Barrie
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Coaching Client - Words Of Wisdom
A passion helps sustain you and it's something you keep doing.
~ Client #1
By focusing on another area of my life like leisure I am allowing myself to have fun which I would not have consciously done on my own.
~ Client #2
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