|Fulfillment@Work: LEARN FROM REJECTION
April 20, 2003
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1. Ten Ways To Learn From Rejection
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10 Ways to Learn from Rejection
- Use rejection as a stepping-stone to a successful job search.
We all experience rejection. It's our reaction to our failures that distinguishes the people who get the job they want.
- Rejection is a short-term setback.
Realize that rejection is not a permanent condition, but a short-term setback. Rejections are temporary, but landing your job will be permanent.
- Rejection is only as big as you make it.
Don't take rejection personally. It probably has nothing to do with you. Most likely it's the job that was a poor fit or ill timing, and not a reflection of you as a person.
- Accept the reality that rejections are part of the job search.
There are always rejections when you are going after a job. Otherwise there would be hundreds of people serving in the same position. Someone has to hear, "Sorry, we can't hire you at this time." When your pursuit is a job, you will go through more rejection as part of defining and exploring your ideal career.
- Focus on the progress of your job search.
Celebrate the positive things you've learned about yourself in the process. Every time you practice your spiel about what an accomplished candidate you are, it sinks in deeper that you are pretty terrific. Practice breeds confidence.
- Accept responsibility for your part in the rejection.
Don't beat yourself up, but ask yourself the following questions -- How can I improve upon this opportunity next time? How did my behavior affect my potential employers decision? What did I contribute to this situation?
- The bigger the rejection, the closer you are to finding the exact job.
The information you get in the rejection of a job that is important to you yields the key to success. Look closer to see what you need to change or adjust to find your ideal career.
- Use the information you gain from your rejections.
Integrate this into your job search. Information without implementation is useless. Rejection can be a learning opportunity. Discharge the disappointment and pain. Implement your newfound insights into your job search.
- Try to see the rejection from an objective point of view.
How do you figure the interviewer came to the decision to pass you over for this position? If you can put yourself in his shoes, you may see things that can help you in future interviews.
- Use the power of positive pressure.
None of us is immune to adversity. In fact, believe it or not, we actually thrive on it. Notice that none of the super heroes are great until they are pressured to save the world. The rest of the time they are dweeby alter egos. Pressure drives them to greatness. The difference between a lump of coal and a diamond is the pressure applied.
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Quotes of the week
"If you stay committed, your dreams can come true. I left home at 17 and had nothing but rejections for 25 years. I wrote more than 20 screenplays, but I never gave up."
~ Michael Blake, (Dances With Wolves Screenplay, Best Picture Oscar)
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~ John Ruskin
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