|Fulfillment@Work: BREAK THROUGH THE BARRIERS
November 1, 1999
Welcome to the Fulfillment@Work Newsletter
Published by Joel Garfinkle, Dream Job Coaching
1. Question of the Day
2. Break Through the Barriers
3. Quotes of the Week
Question of the Day
What would you do with your life if you had no limitations, fears, doubt, worries, uncertainties and self-created walls? Give yourself permission to come up with what you truly want in your life without any boundaries only limitless and unlimited possibilities. Dare to dream.
Break Through the Barriers
What would you do with your life if you had no limitations, fears, doubt, worries, uncertainties and self-created walls? Over the past year, I've conducted close to thirty Define Your Dream Job Workshops and I've noticed that when I begin having the participants discuss characteristics that would describe work they would love to do, they immediately begin putting up their own personal barriers. They aren't able to be open and to consider what they truly want to do with respect to their work.
If you want to know what this might feel like, ask yourself what you truly would love to do for work and notice how your thoughts begin to turn negative. You begin to say, I can't because . . .
Our barriers seem very real to us, but most of the time they are just self-created. Actually, they don't deserve the attention we give them. We create a lot of baseless fears, and magnify what should be minor concerns. In order to avoid our true fears, change in the unknown, we write imaginary obstacles.
Here is a client example and her fears: One of my clients is forty-four and has spent the past nineteen years in the investment industry as a commissioned stockbroker. She has disliked her job for at least twelve years that she can remember, and hated it for the last year. She has no idea what she wants to do, but she feels compelled to do something new. The first step I took with this client was to identify her top three fears. She came up with the following list:
Top 3 barriers
1) Fear of not being able to make enough money.
2) Fear of not being able to determine what my desires are.
3) Fear of starting over.
The second step I took with this client was brainstorming about ways to surmount her fears. She came up with a long list of possible approaches.
The third step I took with this client was choosing one of the approaches from the list. Even if it wasn't the most courageous step, at least it would get her into action. She made her list here and said the following:
- I've decided to try to handle fear #1 by quitting my current job and going to work with my husband; this will allow me, in fact, it may force me to spend time trying to reconnect with myself. I am also trying to teach myself to be patient.
- My way of handling fear #2 is my decision to work less hours and give myself permission to explore other possibilities so I can learn what I want to do.
- I am handling fear #3 by reminding myself that I have always succeeded at something I really wanted, and that my 19 years in the investment industry have taught me some valuable lessons about other people as well as myself. I also remind myself that the pain of doing nothing but standing still, is far worse than the unknown.
Sincerely, Anonymous 44 year old (deciding what I want to be when I grow up).
Give yourself permission to come up with what you truly want in your life without any boundaries - only limitless and unlimited possibilities. Dare to dream. Don't let anything stop you. Allow yourself to reach deep, wide, far and big. Creating big ideas and possibilities never considered before. From this place of strength, you feel you can dive into the relentless pursuit of your dreams. Don't be scared of your own potential!
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Quotes of the Week
It is our duty as men and women to proceed as though the limits of our abilities do not exist.
~ Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
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